getting started

getting started

Here's how it all works. The chart below shows how this website will aid you through the process of making your life a wellspring.  This is not a passive study program.  The key to tuning your character traits is making mussar an active daily practice with the steps below.

Program Chart 

signup

commit
  • If you are looking for a meaningful mussar practice in a committed community, then look no further.  Signup with Riverton Mussar on the homepage to receive the weekly email with the middah (character trait) of the week, and donate to keep the program going.
get source books
  • We recommend having a copy of Everyday Holiness by Alan Morinis, and a journal.  These can be found here.  Other books recommendations are here.

weekly activities

jumpstart
  • You week will start out by reading an email which will be sent to you from the Riverton Mussar website on Saturday night.  This will summarize the middah for the week and help you get started .  Take time on Sunday to reflect on your strengths and weaknesses as they relate to this middah.
prepare
  • Use the resources on this website to understand the nature of the middah for the week. Acquaint yourself with the middah and inspire yourself with the various writings regarding work on this trait.  In addition, read your classic and contemporary mussar texts to help supplement your learning.
partner
  • Schedule time with your chevrutah partner for study during the week.  If you get together in the latter half of the week, this will give you both time to observe and discuss your own interactions regarding the weekly middah before getting together.
reflect
  • On Saturday evening, after sundown, finish your final journal entry for the previous week by looking back at your weekly experiences.  Review your journal entries and summarize your discoveries for the past week.  Add up your accounting for each day and review the results. 

 

daily activities

meditation (hitbonenut)
  • this is best perfomed in the morning before the days' duties
  • find a quiet spot to sit in where you will be undisturbed for at least 10 minutes
  • allocate the time to meditate as a necessity, like you would to eat breakfast or shower
  • find a comfortable space on the floor and breathe in and out  - and notice your breath
  • when your breath becomes uncalculated and you find a natural rhythm, you are ready to proceed
  • say, think or feel shlema (wholeness) – focus and block out external noises and mind noise
  • don’t wander, come back if necessary in your meditation
  • at the end of the day write what distracts you during your meditation in your journal (as it will illuminate what middot are your working points in your morning mantra)
nourish
  • Use the resource page for the middah to gain insights and experiences from mussar masters, leaders, and fellow members.  As the community grows, this resource collection will grow.  While each of our experiences are unique, many of these insights will nourish your soul with wisdom and give you the tools for self-awareness and growth.
observe
  • As you progress through each day, make a mental note of your successes and failures as they relate to the weekly middah.

    Become sensitive to the soul traits inside you.  Heighten your awareness.  It means being aware of the seed of a thought, word, feeling or deed as early as possible in its cycle of germination and birth.  As you go through each day, recognize when your middah is being challenged and how you respond to a particular situation.

correct
  • On Saturday evening, after sundown, look back at your experiences of the week.  Review your journal entries and summarize your discoveries for the week. After you add up your accounting for each day and review the results, make a mental note of where your inability to master self-restraint affected your performance of a particular middah.
    As you prepare to enter a new week, consider where your need to improve lies.  In order to have success in the next week, resolve to be more aware of your behavioral patterns and reign in potentially damaging behavior.  Are you prone to lust?  Look the other way.  Do you have a tendency towards lying?  Perhaps in tandem you need to not only master truth but silence.  Rework problematic soul traits to the root so that it is not a barrier to the soul.  

    Harness the power to correct your middot with this thought:

    "External motions instigate internal motions."  --Rav Chaim Luzzatto

share
  • The power of Riverton Mussar lies in being a collective.  As we share our experiences in an objective fashion with many members, we empower and encourage those around us who may struggle with the same middah that it is possible to change and achieve more wholeness.  Members will be encouraged to participate in our private Facebook discussion group.
journal
  • Each day, it is imperative to journal before retiring.  This includes scoring yourself on the 13 middot and journaling on one or many experiences which reflect on the main middah of focus for the week.  The only night where you would not journal is Friday night, since it is the Shabbat.  Rather, you would journal Friday and Saturday's progress for both days accordingly in your journal following the close of Shabbat.  When you have finished those two entries and accounting, look back at your experiences for the week.  Review your journal entries and summarize your discoveries for the week.  Add up your accounting for each day and review the results.  The cycle begins again each 13 weeks, so you will be able to work on this middah again in 3 months so keep in mind you will have the ability to return to a particular middah again as need be.

middot chart

Rabbi Menachem Mendel of Satanov has outline the 13 Middot (character traits) in his book Cheshbon ha-Nefesh[1].

Also added is some description of the middot by Rabbi Menachem Mendel and the Riverton Mussar team.

1

equanimity

menuchat
ha-nefesh

מְנוּחַת הַנֶפֶשׁ

Rise above events that are inconsequential - both bad and good for they are not worth disturbing your equanimity.  

For in equanimity, there is balance and level-headedness, the desire for equality. This middah helps us to stay focused in the easiest and hardest of times. With this trait, we can rise above events that are inconsequential — both bad and good. To be even-keeled and have the ability to maintain composure is a powerful trait.

2

patience

savlanut

סַבְלָנוּת

When something bad happens to you and you did not have the power to avoid it, do not aggravate the situation even more through wasted grief. Just as copper holds its heat well, consistently and equally, so too do people who have patience. They possess the strength control their heat, or their temper. They are able to hold their emotions in check and handle stressful or unexpected situations. People strong in this middah can bring stability and strength to those around them.

3

order

seder

סֵדֶר

All your actions and possessions should be orderly -- each and every one in a set place and at a set time. Let your throughts always be free to deal with that which lies ahead of you. Those who possess order in their lives are a beacon to those around them. This trait is also coupled with faithfulness and the ability to stay on task. Those who embody order have actions/tasks all of an orderly nature – everything has a set place and at a set time.

4

decisiveness

harizut

חָרִיצוּת

All of your acts should be preceded by deliberation; when you have reached a decision, act without hesitating.

This middah is one which helps us in our daily walk by empowering us to accomplish things through directed action daily.  Mashiach Yeshua speaks against wavering and half-hearted observance . We need to learn how to be informed and courageous so that we are not indecisive - for this can cause others to go astray, missed opportunities or worse yet, tragedy.

5

cleanliness

nekiyut

נְקְיוּת

Let no stain or ugliness be found in your possessions or in your home, and surely not on your body or clothes.

This middah does not merely speak of just physical cleanliness but of cleanliness on a larger scale - that of the soul.  A person of cleanliness also lets no stain or impurity be found in his/her possessions or home, and surely not in one's ethical walk.

6

humility

anavah

עֲנָוָה

Always seek to learn wisdom from every man, to recognize your failings and correct them. In doing so you will learn to stop thinking about your virtues and you will take your mind off your friend's faults.

People who possess this trait are conscientious in their relationships with each other and in their demeanor.  They seek neither to degrade nor puff up those around them, nor think to highly or lowly or themselves.  Mashiach Yeshua plainly says, "The greatest among you shall be to you as a servant. Everyone who lifts himself up will be brought low, but everyone who lowers himself will be lifted up."  (Matthew 23 : 11-12, DHE).  Those who have humility will always seek to learn wisdom from every person and seek to recognize personal failings and correct them. In doing so, one will learn to stop thinking about one’s own virtues and be less concerned with the faults of others.

7

righteousness

tzedek

צֶדֶק

Rabbi Hillel said: "What is hateful to you, do not do to your neighbor." Rashi comments that the women spun the goat's hair directly from the backs of the goats! By not sheering the entire coat off, the luster remains and make it more wholesome and valuable. By committing this righteous act, they spare the goat any discomfort by stripping all of its hair in the desert; for truly their hair provided a barrier from the heat and rays of the sun. By clothing ourselves with garments of righteous works and gemilut chasidim (acts of kindness), it is similar to the function of goat-hair in the Mishkan. Those who promote the garb of dignity may rise to a higher level and see the face of Hashem without deficiency, while at the same time bringing honor to those who need it most.

8

frugality

keemutz

קְמּוּץ

Be careful with your money. Do not even spend a penny needlessly.

Those empowered with a healthy sense of frugality are concerned with resources of all types.  Their very ability to stretch resources and conserve is a testament to the respect they have for that which is endowed to them - either through ownership or management.  As frugality brings abundance, those who are able to manage with little reap much - here and in the Olam HaBa.  

9

diligence

zerizut

זְרִיזוּת

Always find something to do- for yourself or for a friend and don’t allow a moment of your life to be wasted.

In our own pursuits of being light enough to be moved about in learning and positive growth, we are strong enough to pursue these goals without being shaken or giving up. One who is diligent is eager to learn and grow, persistently working to realize the next level - whatever that may be. The diligent person is never idle – always assessing, always reevaluating.

10

silence

shtikah

שְׁתִיקָה

Before you open your mouth, be silent and reflect: 'What benefit will my speech bring me or others?

Silence is the ultimate purity in speech.  As the menorah in the Temple represented purity and brilliance, so too do we shine like a menorah when we guard our words.  When we exemplify silence so as to not commit lashon hara, we are using our speech in the purest way possible.   Before you open your mouth, be silent and reflect: "What benefit will my speech bring to me or others?"

11

calmness

nichutah

נִיחוּתָא

The words of the wise are stated gently. In being good, do not be called evil.

In the middah of calmness, we savor life in a very reflective way. We take in the sensory stimulation, process it, absorb it, and make it a part of us.  People who have calmness are able to be thoughtful and contemplative, allowing for creativity to permeate their very existence and help to bring to their community a new flavor, a new presence, an introduction to a new taste of Hashem and His creation.

12

truth

emet

אֱמֶת

Do not allow anything to pass your lips that you are not certain is completely true.

Anyone possessing truth is able to live a more conflict-free life; for as truth brings clarity, so too does it bring purpose and determination.  Do not allow anything to pass your lips that you are not certain is completely true.  Be a friend of truth and sponsor it.

13

separation

prishut

פְּרִישׁוּת

Strengthen yourself so you can stop lewd thoughts.

People who are well-versed in this middah accept the appropriate responsibilities and seek to fulfill them and them alone. Those who are strong in this middah can also separate from the visual culture which seeks to overwhelm and draw us away from Hashem. If we draw close to those we are destined to draw close to, and separate ourselves from relationships that are forbidden, unhealthy or unsanctified,  then we will receive what separation has for us as its due reward: holiness. 


[1] Rabbi Mendel of Satanov. Cheshbon ha-Nefesh. (1812). Translated by Dovid Landesman. Feldheim Publishers, New York, 1995.  

2.

Other Middot from Mussar sources:

  • gratitude

  • compassion

  • honor

  • simplicity

  • generosity

  • moderation

  • loving-kindness

  • responsibility

  • trust

  • faith

  • yirah - Fear of God

 

calendar of practice

 

The calendar of practice below is Riverton Mussar's scheduled progression through these various middot (character traits) for the year 5771 (2012/2012). 13 middot will be touched on 2 times throughout the course of the year, and then a slightly different combination (with some middot remaining part of the cycle) of 13 middot will be cycled through.  These 13-week cycles will help various traits to be examined, providing for maximum work and the ability to come back to a middah multiple times in order to see a yearly improvement.  This thorough look at each of the middot should provide success for the serious Riverton Mussar member. 

 

Middot

Iteration 1

Iteration 2

Middot

Iteration 3

Iteration 4

Humility

10/30/2011

1/29/2012

Humility

4/29/2012

7/29/2012

Patience

11/06/2011

2/5/2012

Patience

5/06/2012

8/5/2012

Gratitude

11/13/2011

2/12/2012

Compassion

5/13/2012

8/12/2012

Order

11/20/2011

2/19/2012

Order

5/20/2012

8/19/2012

Equanimity

11/27/2011

2/26/2012

Equanimity

5/27/2012

8/26/2012

Honor

12/04/2011

3/04/2012

Simplicity

6/03/2012

9/02/2012

Enthusiasm

12/11/2011

3/11/2012

Enthusiasm

6/10/2012

9/09/2012

Silence

12/18/2011

3/18/2012

Silence

6/17/2012

9/16/2012

Generosity

12/25/2011

3/25/2012

Generosity

6/24/2012

9/23/2012

Adaptability

1/1/2012

4/01/2012

Awareness

7/01/2012

9/30/2012

Moderation

1/08/2012

4/08/2012

Concentration

7/08/2012

10/07/2012

Loving-Kindness

1/15/2012

4/15/2012

Loving-Kindness

7/15/2012

10/14/2012

Responsibility

1/22/2012

4/22/2012

Trustworthiness

7/22/2012

10/21/2012

 

 

Middot

Iteration 1

Iteration 2

Iteration 3

Iteration 4

 

 

 

 

 

Equanimity

10/3/2012

1/2/2012

4/3/2012

7/3/2012

Patience

10/10/2012

1/9/2012

4/10/2012

7/10/2012

Order

10/17/2012

1/16/2012

4/17/2012

7/17/2012

Decisiveness

10/24/2012

1/23/2012

4/24/2012

7/24/2012

Cleanliness

10/31/2012

1/30/2012

5/1/2012

7/31/2012

Humility

11/7/2012

2/6/2012

5/8/2012

8/7/2012

Righteousness

11/14/2012

2/13/2012

5/15/2012

8/14/2012

Frugality

11/21/2012

2/20/2012

5/22/2012

8/21/2012

Diligence

11/28/2012

2/27/2012

5/29/2012

8/28/2012

Silence

12/5/2012

3/6/2012

6/5/2012

9/4/2012

Calmness

12/12/2012

3/13/2012

6/12/2012

9/11/2012

Truth

12/19/2012

3/20/2012

6/19/2012

9/18/2012

Separation

12/26/2012

3/27/2012

6/26/2012

9/25/2012