In my work as a professional counselor (my side job) I sometimes help people suffering with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). This diagnosis indicates excessive anxiety or worry more days than not for at least six months, which the person finds it difficult to control, accompanied by symptoms like restlessness, fatigue, difficulty concentrating, irritability, muscle tension, and sleep disturbance. In short, if equanimity is menuchat hanefesh, rest or calmness of soul, GAD is the opposite, restlessness of soul.
order within and without
Order begins within, but inevitably shows up on the outside. “External disorder may be a reflection of internal disarray,” as Alan Morinis reminds us. Now, as I’m writing this, I’m sitting at a rather cluttered desk in a study that’s not the neatest in the world either. So, what does this say about my internal order?
steady-flame patience
We sometimes think of patience as a passive virtue, similar to endurance; the kind of patience that enables us to perform a repetitive task, to get through setbacks and challenges, or to wait for an answer to prayer without getting irritated or discouraged. Such patience is a virtue, as they say, but patience includes a more active response as well, not just enduring various trials, but maintaining focus and intensity through them all.
little letter, big lesson
One single, extra small letter in the traditional text of Vayikra (Lev. 1:1-5:26) teaches us a big lesson in humility. In fact, it’s a letter in the first word of the parasha, the word “vayikra” itself, which is written in the Torah scroll with a final aleph that is smaller than the rest of the letters.
A generous heart
awakening from below
Moshe Rabbenu teaches loving-kindness
over-the-top enthusiasm
When Miriam leads the women of Israel at the parting of the sea in praising Hashem with song and dance, she is making her second appearance in the Exodus story. In her first scene, Miriam is instrumental in rescuing the baby Moses after his parents are forced to set him adrift on the waters of the Nile.
les mis and mussar
turn aside to order
All of the middot are practical, and order might contend to be the most practical of all. It entails things like putting the car keys back on their hook as soon as you walk in the door, setting your alarm so you get up early enough the next morning, and keeping your desk tidy to eliminate distractions.
hard-won gratitude
patience and purpose
When Joseph saw his brothers, he recognized them; but he acted like a stranger toward them . . . (Gen. 42:7).
Of all the themes that run through the story of Joseph and his brothers, one we might overlook is Joseph’s patience. I’m not thinking of the tremendous patience he needed to get through twenty years of slavery, imprisonment, and estrangement without losing hope in God, but of the patience that brought him through what might have been even tougher—the testing of his brothers when they came down to Egypt to buy food.
humble Joseph
order books
For this mussar cycle, all book materials will be ordered by members directly from their distributors.
We recommend the following resources to aid in your personal practice.
Everyday Holiness by Alan Morinis This is your guidebook to understand contemporary Mussar practice. Mr. Morinis has been instrumental in making Mussar accessable to a new generation of people seeking to better the world and cleave to God through personal character refinement. This book advocates and explains the practice as well as sheds light on individual character traits that we seek to refine. Price: $12 (estimated) |
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Six-Month Mussar Journal Here is the new journal for Hebrew year 5775, starting our mussar cycle on October 19, 2014. This 7.5"x7.5" paperback square journal is designed to help you in the evening practice of reflection on your day. Preceding each section of weekly middot practice is an introductory page explaining the middah, an accounting chart for the week, and a suggested list of kabbalot (practices) for you to select as your coursework. Each day's page includes space for writing, a quote for inspiration, and a question to help you with your journaling. (Details) Purchase a customized Riverton Mussar journal that has all of the charts already laid out, as well as daily journal space, for $18. This journal will become an invaluable tool in your Mussar practice. Order one today! |
can you keep a secret?
Have you ever been in on a conversation that started like this: “Can you keep a secret? I’m really not supposed to talk about this, but . . .” or “So-and-so made me promise not to tell anyone about this, but . . .”? This opening line is usually followed by an explanation of why it’s OK to not keep the secret, but to share the forbidden information with you, often in flattering terms.
honesty and trustworthiness
chesed and truth
chesed and forgiveness
In his commentaries in both the Rosh HaShana and Yom Kippur Koren Machzorim Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks speaks of the God who “creates us in love and forgiveness, who loves and forgives, and asks us to love and forgive others.” Love is so often found side-by-side with forgiveness in discussions of God’s relationship with us.
honing in
There are proper times and places for things. Our world where one can have e-mail, facebook, a phone conversation, and texting all happening simultaneously would like us to think otherwise. Nevertheless, I think most people still know of moments in which everything else needs to be pushed aside for the sake of the task at hand.